Demand Avoidance (contextualized)/de-MAND a-VOI-duns/

Demand avoidance can reflect anxiety, threat responses, executive load, monotropism (deep focus elsewhere), or sensory/uncertainty costs. Approaches centered on autonomy, collaboration, and predictable choices are more effective than control or punishment. This entry uses a neutral, needs‑based frame.

Some communities use “PDA” (Pathological Demand Avoidance). It is debated in research and services. Many prefer needs‑based language (autonomy‑focused support) over pathologizing labels.

Quick Tips

• Offer choices; turn demands into invitations with clear rationale
• Lower uncertainty (visual steps, time windows); give warm‑ups before transitions
• Co‑create goals; use interest‑based entry points

Do / Don't

• Do: collaborate; offer opt‑ins and predictable options
• Do: validate autonomy needs; chunk tasks; reduce surprises
• Don't: escalate control; don’t take no personally; avoid power struggles

Scripts (Examples)

• "Would you like to start with A or B? We can pause after 10 minutes."
• "Here’s why this matters; how shall we approach it so it works for you?"
• "Tell me what would make this easier—timers, breaks, or music?"

Evidence is mixed; profiles of demand avoidance overlap with anxiety, autistic traits, and executive differences. Autonomy‑supportive methods show promise across settings.

This entry avoids pathologizing terms; local services may use different labels. Focus on needs and supports.